I am definitely one for collaborative musing, the art of debating the state of things with good friends (usually over a glass of wine).
This has taken on a whole new meaning with recent events around Brexit, turmoil in the labour party
and now with the decision that Boris is not running for prime minister despite leading a
successful ‘leave’ campaign in the referendum.
It all seems way too much for a mere glass of wine to even ponder let alone to enter into collaborative musing about how things were before Brexit and how they will be in the future.
Often, we're so trapped in thoughts of the future or the past that we forget to experience, let alone enjoy, what's happening right now. We sip coffee and think, "This is not as good as what I had last week." and so on.
Instead, relish or indulge in whatever you're doing at the present moment—what psychologists call savouring. - to give oneself to the enjoyment of. You could be savouring a success or savouring music," explains Sonja Lyubomirsky, a psychologist at the University of California at Riverside and author of The How of Happiness. "Usually it involves your senses."
When subjects in a study took a few minutes each day to actively savour something they usually hurried through—eating a meal, drinking a cup of tea, walking to the bus—they began experiencing more joy, happiness, and other positive emotions, and fewer depressive symptoms, Schueller found.
Why does living in the moment make people happier? Because most negative thoughts concern the past or the future. As Mark Twain said, "I have known a great many troubles, but most of them never happened." The indicator of depression and anxiety is catastrophising—worrying about something that hasn't happened yet and may not even happen at all.
The flip side of worrying is ruminating, thinking bleakly about events in the past. And again, if you press your focus into the now, rumination ceases. Savouring forces you into the present, so you can't worry about things that aren't there.
I work extensively with a coaching model called the YB12 Programme, a fascinating and empowering journey towards achieving successful outcomes in life and business with an awareness of the ‘now’ and how it directly impacts what comes next in life and business.
So, my collaborative musing still continues as it is a favourite past time of mine with good friends but I have learnt to ensure that musing stays a past-time and not a focus to create the future we all want…that’s firmly entrenched in the ‘now’.
A very good friend of mine said recently that ‘change is often an amazing opportunity to grow’ so my belief in these unsure days in business is …… Carpe Diem !